The Greener side

It is interesting hw we humans are never satisfied with what we have.. Atleast to a little extent. And how we always feel like the grass is greener on the other side. We tend to compare our problems with others and feel a lil affected that they are happier than you are, they have more physical wealth then you do, they have a nicer bf/gf, a better job, a better home etc etc. (There are always exceptions to the case of cos).

When i was young (b4 i turned a teenager) my life was very simple, though my family wasn't too well to do, i was nicely pampered by my dad. i got most of what i wanted being the younger one and being considered the one with more potential in the area of academia and of cos, being a gal sure helped. I was also known as an arrogant kid (something i am not proud of at all) by some of my frens and cousins. But as I grew up i matured fast, or should i say i was forced to.

My dad suffered a stroke when I was in sec 1 and from there (and from the eyes of a 13 yr old kid), life seemed to be going downhill. I was almost suicidal at some point in my life when (i can't remember how) but i started becoming more positive. Maybe its cos i started standing on my own feet and managed my finances thus it made me alot stronger. Or maybe simply cos i started putting my faith in god.

Losing dad at 16 and mum at 21 is tough, really tough. Especially losing mum. When i lost dad, I thought i had the most diff life but later i met people who went thru tougher times like a divorce. Then i started telling myself, atleast my parents loved one another till the very end. Many atimes, i have frens who confide in me and make it sound like they have the biggest problems and are at their wits end. I understand how they feel, cos i have felt those same emotions before. But now, i always tell them a simple thing.

The reason y your problem seems so big or ur life seems so miserable is simply because of ur perspective. Dun compare your life or yourself with others. And when u do, compare it with people who r less fortunate then you are. I have read about people who have no hands and support themselves by painting with their feet. I have heard of students who are wheelchair bound yet strive to excel in their studies and be independent. Why then do we, when we compare, put ourselves against people who r better off?

There will ALWAYS be someone who will be richer, better looking, with a better job etc etc. But do you not know that there are people who do not even have the fortune that you have? Not even the very basics like hands, legs, sense of sight or hearing. those who do not have both parents and end up in orphanages? Why then are we not happy with what god has given us?

I do truly belief in tis saying - True happiness is not about having everything, its about making the most of everything you have.

I admit, I'm not perfect. I sometimes feel like life isnt all too fair either.. But whenever that feeling seeps in, I jolt myself back to reality. Anyway, its not about telling god about hw big your problems are, its about believing in god to take u through it all.

Ok, strangely i started this blog wanting to talk abt the transition from teenage to adulthood - having to manage your finances, bills etc.. and then i ended up jus writing whatever came to my mind. haha. alright, will save that for the next time..

till i blog again..

cheers